When visiting an aging relative during the holidays, particularly if you haven’t seen them in several months, it's important to look for signs that can indicate overall well-being and any developing needs for additional care or support.

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1. Physical Health: Observe any changes in mobility, balance, and overall physical condition like signs of weight gain or loss. Take note of any bruises or injuries that might suggest falls or accidents.

1. Mental Health: Pay attention to mood and behavior. Changes in usual demeanor, such as increased irritability, confusion, or forgetfulness, can be signs of cognitive decline or emotional distress.
2. Home Environment: Check the living space. A cluttered, dirty, or poorly maintained home can indicate difficulties in managing daily tasks. Look for any safety hazards – explore the best way to remove any concerns with your loved one so they feel involved and in control of their environment.
3. Social Interaction: Inquire about social activities. Isolation and loneliness can affect mental health, so it's important to know if your loved one is engaging with friends, family, or community activities.
4. Nutrition and Hygiene: Make sure your aging relative is eating well and maintaining personal hygiene. Neglect in these areas can be a sign of physical or cognitive difficulties.
5. Medications: If she/he is on any medications, check if they are being taken correctly. Mismanagement of medication can have serious health implications.
6. Routine and Activities: Ask about daily routine and hobbies. Changes in interest or inability to perform usual activities can be a sign of declining health.
7. Financial Management: Subtly assess if finances are being managed well. Look for unopened mail, unpaid bills, or unusual purchases, which can be signs of cognitive decline or vulnerability to scams.
8. Communication Skills: Pay attention to how your loved one communicates. Difficulty in finding words, repeating stories, or not understanding conversations can be signs of cognitive issues.
9. Emotional Support: Finally, ensure she/he feels emotionally supported. The holidays can be a nostalgic and sometimes difficult time, so provide comfort and reassurance.

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The holidays are a time for family and friends to celebrate and create cherished memories.  Don’t forget to enjoy the time you have left with your aging loved one.  Approach your observations with sensitivity and compassion. For additional information, watch our video “What are Normal vs Not Normal Signs of Aging”.